Many kind friends and family members, contacting me from
across the Atlantic Ocean by means of the bountiful technology we are blessed
to have at our fingertips, have been asking me the same question of late.
“How is it?” they ask. “Do you feel you have transitioned
yet?”
I write in an effort to respond to all these kind enquiries
(note the British spelling!) at once, because I am quickly getting terribly
behind, for reasons I will note below, and I must admit, that my first, gut
response is, “Of course not!”
It’s been three weeks last Saturday, and I left my funny
little house in Boston, and friends and family, and country and custom and –
some would posit – the English language itself to sit inside a small, enclosed
space and embark on a completely different sort of life in a foreign country
where I knew precisely nobody just one month ago.
True, I have found the grocery store, discovered that the
power outlets here have to be switched on individually, registered for classes,
and figured out how to use the funny little oven at my dormitory accommodation
(admittedly, I did burn the bread on Sunday. It really is a funny oven).
I have a bank account (except they misspelled my last name somehow - do you think I should trust them with my money?), basic hygiene products, a doctor
(called a GP) around the corner, a working knowledge of the streets and running
routes around the University of Edinburgh, and some really lovely people who I tentatively
but affectionately call friends.
My to-do list for the week is long and intimidating, but it
includes things like studying Arabic, taking a classmate to church for the
first time, doing coffee (in a broad sense only, I promise) with several
potentially lovely contacts, and reading a book about the ongoing spread of
Christianity into Africa.
So I am content.
And perhaps this means that after three, intense weeks, I have
indeed “transitioned.”
But the truth is that it is 11:53 p.m., and I attempted sleep at
twelve after 10 because it was a very long day, and I was too
tired to finish preparing for the two class presentations that are happening
tomorrow, whether I am ready or not.
The truth is that I still have a rotten cold and my clothes
are drying on the space heater (don’t tell the warden) because the washers
don’t work very well, and money and job plans are bumping about uncomfortably in my head but I can't currently access my bank account from the UK, and I
have to decide whether to apply for a PhD by November, and I actually don’t
know whether my classmate meant it as a compliment earlier when he told me I
was “doing a great job at playing the naiive American girl,” and transitions
can be tough.
I am not asking for sympathy, not by a long shot, but I worry sometimes that Younger Readers might get the wrong impression if I restrict my writing to the Highland vistas and short them on the moments spent in a Scottish pharmacy, trying to decide which of a baffling array of products will stop me from coughing onto my professors.
To you, Young Readers and Young-at-Heart, I say: Even if you have stopped stock-still nearly every
day of the last three weeks – sometimes amid a busy street-ful of Scottish
traffic – to marvel at the grace of God and the miracle of being in Scotland
for this masters program, and even if, like me, you can’t think of anywhere in the
world you would rather be right now, nor anything you would rather be doing, and even
if you overloaded you course schedule (apart from old habits dying hard) in an
effort to express gratitude for the exquisite gift of this experience through
hard work – transitions can still be tough.
People don’t tell you that your insides can take weeks to adjust
to the new diet – and they respond accordingly. They don’t describe how lost,
unimportant, and above all, lonely you can feel in a new city.
They don’t tell you that culture shock is a real thing, or
that the British educational system differs from the American one in some
rather unexpected ways.
But there are other things they don’t tell you either, and
so this is my paltry offering of wisdom for anyone who might move to a new city,
start an educational program, serve a mission, switch countries, or simply
try something so new and different that the little “Inside-Out” people in your
head start to ask, “Would I have done this if I’d known it would be this hard?”
or “Can this ever be worth it?”
I want to tell you that if you have to ask your Chinese flatmate
for her name three different times she will forgive you eventually, as
will the Arabic classmate who tried to befriend you, but you were waiting for
the Ibuprofen to kick in and could hardly think straight until it did.
Even when your friends and family are scattered across the
globe anywhere from two hours ahead to eight hours behind and no one is
answering your Facetime, there is One who will always pick up.
And He will tell you that it’s OK if it’s hard. That
transitions are meant to be tough. That many of the people around you who seem
to know just what they are doing actually want to call their mom tonight. Or
buy a chocolate twist at Sainsburys. (Did you read “pastry” as in one? Because
I meant three. Plus a box of chocolate-dipped Swiss rolls. Scotland really has
good pastry.)
And if you keep smiling at the strangers next to you, and
asking for their names yet again, and eating something other than pastry now
and then, and making the hike to church and reading your scriptures, and
showering at least every other day, it will get better.
It will be better than you, looking at the glossy photos
from your bedroom at home, could ever have imagined. And what you learn – and
who you become - will be completely, utterly, totally worth it.
